I love life and always have, however it was not til the other day, as I enjoyed an amazing meal and conversation with my good friend Dickie Lee, that I realized exactly what I love about it.
Our lives are subject to the constraints of time, as such, people can live an entire life without actually doing anything; time runs even when people don’t. In western culture, it seems that people try to make their passage through time more interesting by adding material objects into the mix. They seem to think that things will maximize their experience in life and through time. I can see the appeal of this belief, but am inclined to disagree.
As I sat with Dickie on a temperate night eating great food I realized that experiences, not things, are what make life lovable. Doing things, not having them, is what really matters.
At that moment, Dickie and I defined what an experience actually is: An experience often contains three components - people, atmosphere and activity. We agreed that the perfect experience is one where the people you are surrounded by, the atmosphere you are in and the activity you are partaking in are mixed in the perfect proportions. We also decided that the company is the most important of the three but that it takes at least a heavy positive dose of two of those things to make for a memorable experience.
However after thinking about that last statement, I am beginning to disagree with myself. It is impossible to quantify aspects of an experience. For example, an awesome experience could be hiking by yourself. Although potentially great, that experience did not include anyone but yourself - it was simply heavy doses of atmosphere and activity . At the same time, being stuck in an elevator with the right person or people can be conducive to a memorable experience as well.
So what makes something worthwhile? The way I see it is that there is a 0-100 scale, 100 being the best possible experience and 0 being the worst. Atmosphere , activity and company all have a maximum number of points that they can contribute to the scale. As of now I don’t know which component can contribute the most, they might be equal. But I do know that at every point in time I am going to try and either maximize my company, surroundings and activities or all of them.
I am currently sitting alone in my room. However writing this post has been a nice experience because first, the ambiance of my room is great, so my atmosphere has high points and second I am thinking, writing and listening to music, so my activity points are high as well. What I am lacking in company I am making up for in surroundings and actions.
The point of this post is to let people know that from now on I will be maximizing as many of those three components as possible. To my friends - if I invite you over, take it as a compliment - I think that you will help maximize my ‘company’ points. From now on I will no longer be moderate in where I go, what I do and who I spend time with. Moderation is good in some cases, but not those.
Opposing beliefs welcome. bring ‘em on.
-pk
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